There is a song, “Life is Just a Bowl of Cherries” sung by Ethel Merman in 1931 and Judy Garland in 1956. Some of the lyrics explain my felling about life. “Life is just a bowl of cherries. Don't take it too serious, Life's too mysterious... The best things in life to you were just loaned. So how can you lose what you never owned... Life is just a bowl of cherries So live and laugh at it all”
Yes life is just a bowl of cherries or as I said in a FaceBook post “life is a bunch of memories” maybe in this case a bowl of memories (cherries) some sweet and some sour. It is hard to separate the sweet from the sour and no matter how much sugar you put on them the sour cherries (memories) are still sour.
In my book “Balloon in a Box, Coping with Grief” I explain how I am learning to keep the sour “cherries” separate from the sweet. As I move through my journey of grief I am taking her and the sweet memories with me. I am moving on with her not without her. This you must do in order to move on after the death of a loved one. Learning to control the memories is not easy but you can do it. Take it one step at a time.
Their is an old Chinese proverb that says; “You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building a nest in you hair.” And I might add eating your sweet cherries.
As a Boy Scout you pledge to “Do Good' and “Be Good”. Maybe that is what we all need to follow every day to be good and do good creating good memories for others and ourselves. Simply being and doing good we will help us collect sweet cherries in our bowl. To me the best things about memories are/where making them
Remember, the best memories are not the ones in the photographs but they are the ones captured in your heart.