Let's Talk about Listening

Sure, let's talk about listening coming from a guy who talks all the time. My joke is “ I am talking because I have so much to say and so little time” It's true I know I talk a lot but I also listen but can improve my listening skills.

Listening is the important part of how we connect with friends, family and other people in our lives. I am finally after 81 years trying to become a better listener. This is allowing me to better understand those people around me, to understand who they are, and what they are all about. Maybe in turn to help me understand me?

One of the benchmarks of great communicators is their ability to listen not just to what's being said, but to what's not being said as well. They listen between the lines. -Laurie Buchanan, author

I was told by one of my college professors that you can practice listening any time you wish, even when there isn’t anyone around. So, I just tried it and all I heard was Frank Sinarta singing “Let's Fall in Love”. After I turned off the music, I tried it again. Try it, close your eyes and notice what you hear. Be patient because in even the quietest of places you will hear. Also, when you are outside count how many sounds you can hear. It's actually fun and interesting. When you read, listen. When you write, listen. When you talk, listen

Once you have developed good listening skills bring them with you in your next conversation. Ask questions and truly pay attention to the answers. Listening is matter of respect and generosity. You can, without saying a word, send the message that what is being said is important, and that you care. Studies have shown that people who listen well have stronger relationships, are better at anticipating problems, and resolve conflicts with more tact and empathy.

When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. Ideas actually begin to grow within us and come to life. -Brenda Ueland, journalist

Take it from a guy who talks to much but who has friends that listen and really appreciate their respect and generosity. I am trying to talk less, listen more so now when I read, I listen, when I write, I listen.

Right to speak comes with a duty to listen. -Amit Kalantri, author